A
response to a teenager’s question on human sexuality is featured,
today. While the council shared is from a Christian to an Islamic
believer, the substance provided pertains to life for all. More often
than not, the confusion in our lives is not coming from our Creator;
yet, there is no “easy way out.” Given their duty as life companions
entrusted with each other’s secrets, parents ought not expose one
another to the censure of their children; and so they may not always
speak freely to their own children regarding the common challenges,
errors, and shortcomings from their younger days. Just as we are
careful to select food and drink to nourish our bodies, we must be
careful selecting ideas and relationships to nourish our feelings and
thoughts. Many Christian believers have paid dearly for life lessons,
and to arrive at the same points of truth shared among Muslims by first
attending “the school of hard knocks.” Because they continued to be
immature, were stubborn, and lacked correct knowledge, they repeated
basic mistakes in their attitudes and their sexual behavior for many
years before being recovered from error through the operations of GOD.
Where a mother uses drugs during pregnancy, her child may be born
addicted. Similarly, where either of the parents practice fornication,
their child may be born spiritually defiled and unclean. While we are
young we must be encouraged to understand that—just as ability to recite
passages from the holy writings come only through practice that may
seem dull, monotonous, and tedious—self-discipline, self-mastery, and
self-control also come only through deliberate and painstaking
practice. Consider the following Bible verses, and the discussion
below:
Proverbs 16: 32, King James Version (KJV): 32 He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.
Proverbs 25: 28, KJV: 28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.
Mark 10:
6-8, KJV: 6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male
and female. 7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother,
and cleave to his wife; 8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then
they are no more twain, but one flesh.
Micah 6: 8, KJV: 8 He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?
The young writer at “Yahoo! Answers” posted the following:
Ramadan: How do I control my lust?
salam, I am a 16
year old brother…I find myself unable to lower my gaze….I stare at
women, girls, and even boys in public with lust, masturbate all the
time, even fantasizing about boys, and rape….I sometimes watch porn, and
I just want to know, how do I control my lust? salam, Mustafa
THE GOLDEN ARROW: And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand. Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is
she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make
one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he
might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let
none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. (Malachi 2:
13-15, KJV)
THE
DOUBLE DAGGER: The Wife of Your Youth? (12/22/2015); All Sin Is
Willful? (10/20/2015); The Mistakes In Youth? (08/24/2015); Sermons
About Good Sex? (08/25/2014); About Good Sermons? (08/26/2014);
Pornography from the Bible (11/26/2012); More Than Salvation
(11/27/2012)
“Mustafa”, as salam alekum.
When it comes to sex, no one has all the final answers; and we all must
depend on some specific guiding principles. The council a Christian
father must give his son regarding a boy developing into manhood
includes a number of serious warnings that help to bring balance into
his thinking on, and acting out sexual desires. As carnal beings (we
say, flesh and blood), young people increasingly experience sexual
arousal as they are growing up. This is partly because of mechanical
operations of their body (e.g., activity by glands; muscular growth;
changes in height and weight). As we learn and grow, we all experience sexual appetite
the same way we repeatedly have hunger and thirst. Using logic,
reason, and thought, does not make hunger and thirst go away. Humans
must discipline both their body and mind to respond to appetite in ways
that are healthy. We avoid eating, or drinking any and every thing
around us, because they may be poisonous or things to bring about
sickness and death. Similarly, we must limit ourselves regarding sex,
and because we will be held accountable for our communication, exchanges
and interactions within intimate relationships.
Sexual contact
occurs on multiple levels: the physical the emotional, the
psychological, as well as the spiritual. Thus, sex is held to be
dangerous for those who are young and unprepared. There are always
unexpected outcomes of a sex act. This makes it that sex should be
understood as unpredictable and unreliable. Even
adults who maintain the same pattern of attitudes and behavior for many
years can become confused and damaged through adultery, casual sex, and
extra-marital sexual relations. Sexual intercourse may be unexplainably
painful; there may be disease; there may be unwanted pregnancies; and
there may be dissatisfaction with oneself and ones partner.
For those seeking to become spiritually adult, and present themselves to GOD in purity, warnings must be shared against fornication.
Just as girls and guys who think that oral sex will not do as much harm
as full intercourse are mistaken, young people are mistaken who think fornication means sex before marriage, or too much sex, with too many partners (promiscuity).
With every sexual contact (be it as simple as holding hands or a kiss
on the cheek—oral sex) there is a joining of spirit content for the two
sexual partners. In marriage, the two “become one flesh,” and GOD is
the other. Even so, because her spirit now is within him, and his
within her, they must respond to a second spirit inside themselves, and
make multiple adjustments to have contentment and inner peace. Where
the male has had sex with 10 girlfriends before marriage, his wife will
be joined to at least 11 spirits. Where his wife had relations with 8
guys, she brings 9 spirits to the marriage. Do the math: where the 10
girlfriends knew 8 guys each (80), and the 8 boyfriends 11 girls each
(88), the total of spirits begins to number over 200 because of
additional contacts among the 8 and the 11. In some ways, both partners
may be strengthened, and made to feel more capable as adults. However,
the battle is for the mind. Conflict among the spirits of
unseen partners can result in the married couple experiencing fear,
despair, depression, divorce, and uncertainty that suddenly seems to
come from out of nowhere. The inborn spirit may be weakened by the
unseen influences and unclean spirits. The opposition it must face for control over combinations of spirits (say 50 to 1 or 75 to 1) could become overwhelming.
The serious bonds,
connections, and habits established through our animal nature and
sexuality can not be immediately broken or removed using our finite
human tools (e.g., isolating ourselves; moping; weeping; moving to a
new city; trying to make new friends; exercising self-will). Christian
believers turn to GOD for rebirth and new life that is possible through
Jesus Christ. Once born again, believers must “grow up again” to become
disciplined and mature as spiritual persons joined to divinity.
Mustafa, there is
far more to be learned, properly understood, and correctly put into
action. Make every positive effort you can. Through our submission to
GOD, men and women should expect to acquire sacred knowledge,
and undergo continued change and growth. Even so, I trust this fragment
will be useful. Be it unto you according to the power in your spirit
that connects you to GOD, your faith.
THE BLACK PHOENIX
Washington, DC
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