(12/22/2015) The Wife of Your Youth?

Today, teaching and godly wisdom on marriage are shared.  Many young adults are offended by the priceless lessons on defilement, fornication, and life companionship.  The young count it as maturity to frown upon arranged marriage and early or teenage marriage with the same contempt they show sexual abstinence.  Prostitution is regarded as “adult”, natural, and necessary.  Yet, sexual activity is dangerous for those who are immature and inexperienced because the outcome is always unpredictable:  Intercourse is never the same twice (even with the same partner, at the same hour, in the same location); one may become infected with disease; or there may be unwanted pregnancy.  For mature Christian believers, holy matrimony is a joining of spirits that removes some of the threat, for two become one flesh, and GOD is the other.  Just as for Adam, the 2 wives of Abraham, or the 4 wives of Jacob—even the 700 wives and 300 concubines of Solomon—successfully managing the spirits that are engaged during sexual contact become possible only by operations of GOD.  Because sexual activity is always a compound event occurring on multiple levels (emotional, physical, psychological, and spiritual) all at the same time, even activity as simple as holding hands, or a kiss on the cheek (oral sex) may have great energy and enduring power, due to the exchange and interaction of spirit content.  The fruit of sexual sharing in relationships of willing surrender, trust, and unselfishness can be greater certainty, confidence, and self-command.  Nonetheless, unintended bonds begun through casual sex may only be removed by divinity.  For those who have had multiple sexual partners, their own inborn spirit may come under attack by spirits within themselves from persons previously joined to the present sex partner.  For example, a fellow who joins to one woman, internalizes aspects of her character and nature, and must continue to manage two separate spirits within himself until they are blended as one.  Where he has had intercourse with 12 women, he brings more than 13 spirits to his marriage bed.  Every spirit acquired by the 12 through their other sexual behavior also will appear.  Thus, where the 12 women had 10 men each who had 10 women each (do the math…) more than 1,200 spirits are involved, and spiritual confusion is very likely to result within the marriage.  The spirits may be in conflict with one another, form alliances (30 against 90; 50 against 70), may increase the strength of the one fellow’s own spirit, or oppose and crush his inborn spirit.  As with symptoms for disease or drug use, neither benefits nor conflicts from the fusion of spirits will appear—at first; and others will see changes in him (like seeing his chin, his face, or the back of his head) before he himself realizes that serious  problems have developed.  Later, inappropriate behavior, uncharacteristic attitudes or beliefs, and unexplained emotions may be seen such as anxiety, depression, distress, and perplexity.  Early marriage where faithfulness and fidelity are maintained is a primary divine solution for avoiding the many woes that come by fornication.  Consider again the following from Scripture, and the commentary below:  Proverbs 19:  14, King James Version (KJV):  14 House and riches are the inheritance of fathers:  and a prudent wife is from the LORD.   Also, Proverbs 5:  15-20, KJV:  15 Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.  16 Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.  17 Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee.  18 Let thy fountain be blessed:  and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.  19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.  20 And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?  1st Corinthians 6:  15-20, KJV:  15 Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid.  16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.  17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.  18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.  19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?  20 For ye are bought with a price:  therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.  1st Peter 3:  7, KJV:  7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.  Pandita Njoh Eta, who participates with me in THE BIBLE STUDY GROUP (a Public Group on Facebook presently having 21,918 members), invited discussion by posing the following question at 10:36pm, December 9, 2015:
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Why is scripture particular about the wife of your youth and what do you understand by it.?


THE GOLDEN ARROW:  Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.  For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow:  but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.  Again, if two lie together, then they have heat:  but how can one be warm alone?  And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.  (Ecclesiastes 4:  9-12, KJV)


THE DOUBLE DAGGER:  The Mistakes In Youth? (08/24/2015); Sermons About Good Sex? (08/25/2014); About Good Sermons? (08/26/2014); GOD and Adultery? (06/11/2014); A Hardened Spirit? (06/12/2014); Traditional Marriage? (12/18/2013); GOD Enjoys Judgment? (12/19/2013)


Pandita Njoh Eta, because ones spouse is to be a lifelong companion who also serves as an agent of GOD in the divine processes of salvation, it can be important that a pair begin their marriage union while both are still young, and their emotional, psychological, sexual, and spiritual development is still ongoing.  Many young people despise and reject the wisdom that addresses issues of arranged and early marriage.  In most nations, today, children are classed among the poor:  They do not have income from employment; they have no savings; they do not own luxuries (e.g., boats, gems, jewelry, paintings, stocks) and property that may be turned into cash.  Unless the parents provide an inheritance or portion for the young, they will continue as unfit for the financial obligations and responsibilities of marriage until such time as they accomplish their own business, career, or savings goals.  The excellent model wherein the female serves as homemaker not only relieves the male, and adds power to all his efforts to meet the life challenges within the workplace, it permits her full expression of creativity, ingenuity, originality, and resourcefulness.

All young people hunger for affection, affirmation, endorsement, and respect as feeling and thinking persons.  While they want acceptance, many are unwilling to make lasting commitments; discharge unpleasant, yet, necessary duties; or maintain strict self-discipline regarding their own body, mind and spirit.  Many covet adulthood, independence, maturity, and romantic love without understanding that the benefits and strengths of these features are developed gradually by continuing exchange in stable relationship.  The young often have fantasies about being loved, and imagine a future life.  However, they tend to think in terms of their own satisfaction, rather than obedience (i.e., putting aside ones own desires and feelings to carry out the desire of another); sacrifice (i.e., giving over and enduring loss to please another); and unselfish support to another.

There are many other points that should be carefully considered, correctly understood, and spiritually apprehended.  (For example, because many young people are convinced that the way to find a marriage partner is by dating, and having sexual relations with everyone to whom they are attracted, many have become victims of fornication (i.e., the joining of spirits through sexual activity), HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s), and unwanted pregnancies.  Marriage does not eliminate sexual appetite, and may only provide healthy experiences for a pair where they are mature enough to exercise perseverance and restraint as well as commitment to vision.)  Even so, I trust this fragment will be useful.  Be it unto you according to your faith.

THE BLACK PHOENIX
Washington, DC