Today,
reply is on a shared challenge of human development, that children
manage judging others and restrain anger against their own parents.
Among Christian believers, exaggerated pride, behaving in ways that
are hateful, unwillingness to forgive, and spiritual wickedness can
not be disguised or justified through claims of childhood abuse,
cruelty, injustice, and mistreatment by ones parents. Given that
otherwise hidden emotions that are openly shown to family are always
accounted as the most authentic expressions of who we are, many rely
on expressing their feelings as a primary tool for child-rearing;
however, behavior driven primarily by feelings quickly becomes
irrational and unbalanced. A child’s
view of reality is not always distorted by fantasy, imagination, and
immaturity. Even so, when pressured to condemn others (i.e., deny
their humanity, value, and worth), children too are challenged to
account for damage, pain, and streams of truth in the lives of those
accused that can be invisible and unseen to those lacking adult and
godly perspective. Children who continue a grudge against their
parents by refusing to forgive and rise above the errors in their
youth continue with baggage and bitterness, may not remain guiltless,
and may ultimately destroy the best possibilities of their own
opportunities as adults. A fighter in the “Yahoo! Answers”
Religion and Spirituality public forum using the ID “Breakthrough”
(Level 6 with 15,408 points, a member since June 29, 2013) posted the
following:
Do
I have a right to be angry at my mom?
My
mom didn't want children and gave birth to me so my dad would stay
married to her and I'm the only child she has
She
has mistreated me and tried to sabotage my life ever since I was old
enough to talk
When
I was in high school I was trying hard to get into a good university
and my mother told me that instead of trying to go to university I
should just sleep with men for cash since its easier
She
also denied me medical treatment when I had 2 diseases at the age of
9 because she wanted me to suffer
Today
I made a mess in the living room by accident and my mother starts
yelling at me and telling me how I'm a waste of time and resources
because every week she has to waste her time doing things to help me
I
was angry at her for having that type of attitude towards her child
THE
GOLDEN ARROW: He that is slow to anger is better than the
mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.
(Proverbs 16: 32, King James Version, KJV)
THE
DOUBLE DAGGER: Divine Forgiveness and Justice (01/01/2019);
Discipline and Sacred Meekness (11/30/2018); A Possible “Home
Remedy?” (11/08/2018); Conversation In The World (04/03/2018);
Starting A New Life? (11/21/2017); What Young People Need?
(06/26/2017); Becoming A Full Person (02/12/2017); Benefiting From
Your Childhood? (11/18/2016)
“Breakthrough”,
here are some points to consider. All have come short—both
parents and children—and few display
the perfection intended by GOD. In the course of their
communication, exchange, and interaction as life companions, there
are many times when parents and their children will offend one
another. Even so, it will be the primary goal of children who are
developing as Christian believers to become Christ-like, and to
continually display the image of GOD. In the same way becoming adult
and growing up requires multiple changes, discovery, gradual growth,
and learning, a young person becomes complete and full as a Christian
by meeting life challenges on the earth that apply and make visible
the inseparable aspects of spirit substance they will contain that
are provided from the makeup of GOD. Included are faith,
forbearance, holiness, longsuffering, lovingkindness, meekness,
oneness without sameness, personhood, wisdom, and wrath
against sin.
Even
those who are very young should be encouraged to express and practice
attitudes and life skills that eventually will bear fruit as ministry
to the lives of others. The young also are to prepare for the Advent
of Jesus Christ and become ripe for harvest by the Lord at his
appearing (we also say, the Rapture; the Second Coming). Teens and
young adults who become impatient with the process of the church to
provide instruction and support, often despair and leave before
receiving the blessings, divine tools, and practical understandings
they will need to operate successfully in the face of adult
hardships, trials, and suffering. In general, the anger a child
expresses against the conduct of their caretakers also expresses
ignorance of conditions and the destructive presence of intense
emotional, psychological and spiritual pressures that their parents
may routinely encounter. Just as the heads of the family are to heal
and dress the wounds of others within the home, the children are
members of the household emergency response team and may have to
serve as crisis assistants and “first-responders” for their
parents, siblings, and others having place in their lives.
Maturity
(i.e., balance, consistency, sobriety, soundness, stability) among
Christians is discerned in the acceptance of accountability;
commitment; carrying out and fulfilling ones own word of agreement
and promise; correct use of sacred knowledge, secular
knowledge, and the proper observance of sacred practices
(sacraments) as well as the display of forgiveness and restraint.
Consider again the following that shares instruction for those within
the household of faith and uses language from the Bible:
1.
Ecclesiastes 7: 9, King James Version (KJV): 9 Be not hasty in thy
spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.
2.
Ephesians 4: 25-27, KJV: 25 Wherefore putting away lying, speak
every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of
another. 26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon
your wrath: 27 Neither give place to the devil.
3.
Ephesians 4: 29-32, KJV: 29 Let no corrupt communication proceed
out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying,
that it may minister grace unto the hearers. 30 And grieve not the
holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.
31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil
speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: 32 And be ye kind
one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for
Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
4.
James 1: 19-22, KJV: 19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every
man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: 20 For the wrath
of man worketh not the righteousness of God. 21 Wherefore lay apart
all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness, and receive with
meekness the engrafted word, which is able to save your souls. 22
But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own
selves.
There
is far more that should be said, correctly examined, and spiritually
apprehended. (For example, 5. Ezekiel 18: 20-23, KJV: 20 The soul
that sinneth, it shall die. The son shall not bear the iniquity of
the father, neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son:
the righteousness of the righteous shall be upon him, and the
wickedness of the wicked shall be upon him. 21 But if the wicked
will turn from all his sins that he hath committed, and keep all my
statutes, and do that which is lawful and right, he shall surely
live, he shall not die. 22 All his transgressions that he hath
committed, they shall not be mentioned unto him: in his
righteousness that he hath done he shall live. 23 Have I any
pleasure at all that the wicked should die? saith the Lord GOD:
and not that he should return from his ways, and live?) Even
so, I trust this fragment will be useful. Be it unto you according
to your faith.
Washington,
DC
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